Dating forties fifties
As we sipped wine and gazed out at the hotel's infinity pool and the lights of the city, we talked about how nice it would be have to have a date with us.
Naturally, the topic turned to men and the atmosphere in the room began to resemble a slumber party. We sat side by side, swiping right and left, exclaiming with glee when we matched with someone. I had tried (and still use) other dating applications but the pool of men I had been meeting began to feel limited.
A number of gentlemen I’ve met shouldn’t have been dating at all because they are still grieving.
And the most surprising phenomenon that I’ve witnessed in this pool of men is that being a pretty, happy, vivacious “cool chick” is a big negative strike against me.
First I turned to Celia (all names have been changed), a producer in her mid-50s with four kids.
"I would like to be in a real relationship, but I can't quite envision how it would work in my life," she said. I need to know that he somehow has an intellectual interest and likes discussing things — essentially, a smart Jew. All JDate has is a bunch of Israeli contractors who live in Encino; that would be interesting and fun, but not someone who would fit in my life. Nobody has anyone who matches me." I asked Celia if she thought those men who do meet her criteria were being taken by younger women. She also said she sees some "second-chapter gay men who had wives and families — they take away not one guy but two guys from the database.
Our dating experts all suggest the same approach to dating at any age: Relax (or at least appear to be unaware of the incessant, pounding tick-tock of your internal clocks) and your charms will shine through. (The first dates that can make the rest of us so nervous?
And I definitely fit the definition of a “cool chick” – and my guy friends will confirm:-).” Unfortunately, the pool of men that I’m dating from (early to mid 40s, usually divorced) are pretty messed up. My friend and I were sharing a hotel room at a weeklong business conference.After a day of dry lectures and an evening of happy hours and conference socializing, we were tired, a bit tipsy, and slightly giddy.We've compiled great ways to meet others and fabulous ideas for first dates. It may prompt you to send us angry missives about ageism.And we've got only one rule: Stop looking at dating as a game or chore, and approach it with optimism and confidence. But here goes: The rest of us could learn a thing or two from the dating habits of 20-somethings.