Dating and dealing with rejection
Many people cannot quite handle rejection the right way.But handling it the correct way is a matter of developing the proper mindset.It may also be due to a simple incompatibility issue.The next time you get rejected, try to analyze the situation more carefully before you go on to feel sorry for yourself and sulk in a corner with wounds to your ego. Some people just cannot handle rejection well that they continue to persist and pursue someone in hopes that there would be a change of heart.You probably felt disappointed, embarrassed, sad, upset, or maybe a little angry.We get it – rejection’s not fun, so how do you deal with it?Sometimes it is better to just accept the rejection and then move on to better things.
They just cannot see your special traits or characteristics even with their eyes wide open.
In addition to these kinds of minor rejections, we are still vulnerable to serious and more devastating rejections as well.
When our spouse leaves us, when we get fired from our jobs, snubbed by our friends, or ostracized by our families and communities for our lifestyle choices, the pain we feel can be absolutely paralyzing.
Welcome back to Dating With Science, where we use scientific studies to uncover the secrets of romance (for example, that there are things much more important than hotness, such as coolness, and not constantly talking about Warcraft). Anyone who's ever experienced rejection will tell you it's one of the worst feelings in the world (unless the person has just moments ago been rejected, in which case all he will tell you is "," which is the onomatopoeia for "tearful blubbering").
Being rejected by someone you really like is a uniquely wrenching feeling, like the collapse of a Jenga tower made out of your feelings, or like being on an elevator that starts careening to the ground, and then at the bottom a cute boy drags you out of the wreckage to tell you that you suck.